The deeper conversation about natural hair

Channel 4 recently aired a documentary as part of its black history month programming called Hair Power: Me and my Afro. It was an insightful look into a few people’s experiences growing up and having natural Afro hair in the UK. It was really interesting, if you haven’t seen it I encourage you to check it out.

It got me thinking about my own hair, how I view it and if there is a deeper meaning to how I’ve chosen to wear my hair.

My hair has been relaxed since I was 4 years old, so for as long as I can remember my mum has been relaxing my hair and I’ve never had any issues with it. I love how manageable it is for me. I’ve learnt how to style it, treat it, trim it, deep condition it. The fact that I can wash, dry and straighten in under an hour really appeals to me.

However, after watching this documentary I do question whether I am in someway not being true to the hair that God gave me. Should I be rocking my gloriously curly mane regardless of how long the maintenance of it may be?

Does my natural hair give my daughter (whose hair is natural) the wrong idea about the value of her natural hair?

Am I conforming to the ideals set by society or diluting my blackness by wearing my hair in a way that I feel may help me be accepted by other races?

Yep deep questions right? Lol. I’ll be honest, even as I write this I’m undecided. It’s not the first time I’ve thought about whether or not I should have natural hair and it also won’t be the first time I’ve considered going natural.

My argument so far has been that relaxed hair doesn’t make me any less of an african after all I have far more prominent features that are telling of my heritage – for example the rounded contours of my nose, the warm hue of my skin- is that not enough?

What if I grow out my natural hair and because of time restraints or otherwise end up wearing wigs? Does that not defeat the purpose? Are wigs not relaxed hair in synthetic form? Are lacefronts, closures and the alike all a nod towards the European standard of hair beauty? Just thinking aloud here…

Maybe that’s not a strong enough reason, maybe I should proudly rock the hair that God gave me, regardless of the time it takes to maintain. Wear my tightly wound curls with love and pride and show my daughter that my hair is just like hers and it’s beautiful.

Even at the end of this I’m still undecided, relaxed hair I feel has become a part of my style and I really enjoy wearing my hair in this way but maybe just maybe it’s time for a change…

Hair care for my little one

Hey everyone! It’s been a while and why not kick off my return with an easy haircare routine.

I’d like to point out that What I’m going to share with you has been based on trial and error and me studying my daughters hair pattern and how it reacts to different products. I hope you find it useful for your little girl/boys delicate tresses 🙂

– Firstly, I wash my daughters hair once a week. I do this because her curly hair locks in moisture very well and doesn’t get dirty that quickly. I wash her hair using Cantu Care for kids tear-free nourishing shampoo

– I then finish this off with Cantu Care for kids leave in conditioner. I use this rather sparingly and work it through the hair with my fingers, I don’t comb her hair at this stage. I then put a shower cap in her (if allowed lol) to let the leave-in really do it’s work

– I also have the Cantu Care for kids Conditioner, I use this after the shampoo every other week because for me I feel like it does a very similar job to the leave-in conditioner with the only difference being that I rinse out the conditioner. The consistency and smell seem identical to me but that could just be me.

– After leaving the shower cap on for 10 minutes or so, I remove and pat dry any excess leave-in and style her hair. I begin with the Cantu conditioning creamy hair lotion. This is the adult one so I use very little.

– I follow this with some Castor oil, I bought this one on amazon and it’s pretty good, with its nice thick consistency, you wouldn’t need much.

– Then finally I use Cantu Care for kids curling cream to define her curls. Again you don’t need to much of this but can always adjust quantity depending on the thickness and length of your child’s hair. I’m really impressed with this product, it leaves my daughters hair so shiny and the curls stay defined for most of the day.

– For creating styles that require hold like cornrows or putting the hair into bunches I use the Cantu Care for kids styling custard. I really like how it holds the hair and there is no residue what’s so ever, no bits in the hair, the hair doesn’t become hard, it’s still soft and nourished. This is my favourite product out of the range.

– For day to day care I do not use a comb on her hair, I tease out any knots with my fingers and run my hands through the hair gently, even if I’m putting it into bunches I don’t come it, I just tease it out with my fingers then gather it into a hold. For slicker styles I do use a very soft brush.

– I gently message the scalp concentrating on the hairline with castor oil to keep her scalp moisturised and promote growth, I do this daily.

– I was putting a silk headscarf on her head at night but that didn’t last long lool! May be when she’s a bit older. The cotton bedding really dries out the hair and saps the oil out, but will keep moisturising her hair daily to combat that.

I hope you’ve found this useful. If you have any questions please leave it in the comments or drop me an email 🙂

Thank you for reading xx

Relaxed hair care

The way we care for our hair has changed in recent the years. Over the last decade more and more women are caring for their hair using a diverse number of products. Wearing wigs of different colours and lengths allows all women to experiment with new looks switching from diva to princess in seconds! Our hair says something about us and whether you are daring with yours or not, the way we care for our hair does matter.

I have relaxed hair and I enjoy maintaining it but I’ve noticed that different processes produce different results, I’ll explain…when relaxing your hair how long it is conditioned for and the method used to dry it affects the finish and the texture. For example, after relaxing the hair if you choose to use a wrap mousse and then blow dry your hair the finished look is likely to be lighter, more silky and straighter with less body if you use a  dryer and comb. Setting your hair without heat can leave some kinks but also give more volume. Choosing to dry the hair after relaxing using a volumising mousse or setting rollers will give the hair far more volume, body and bounce as opposed to simply curling or straightening the hair.

Knowing your hair and the type of hair that you have is important to treating it correctly. Take time to look at how your hair reacts to different products and how different hairstyles affect your hair too. Some people have hair that grows when in plaits or when in a weave, others have identified the opposite effect.

Its also important to take note of the different textures of hair that are on your head. There are parts of the hair such as the hairline especially that can be fine and delicate, breaking easily when brushed too excessively. Some also have thinner hair at the crown of their heads. Take note of these and ensure that the hairstyles you choose to wear will benefit your hair in the long term.

Nutrition also plays a part in the care of our hair, look after your relaxed hair by drinking water and eating a healthy diet to ensure that your new growth is healthy and strong.

A regular trim of the ends of your hair does wonders for relaxed hair. Keep your tresses pretty and strong by having your hair dresser trim your ends often. Don’t be afraid of loosing length by trimming your hair, those little snips actually promote hair growth and can make hair healthier and longer.

If you don’t have time for your relaxed hair in the mornings try treatments that work on your hair during the night. A lot of brands have creams and moisturizers that get to work while you sleep. Shop around to find one that works best for you…Mizani have a product thats great and is only applied twice a week.

I hope this has been helpful.

Have a great week! x