Am I making the most of my time as a mum?

Being a stay at home mum means that I sometimes feel as though I’m not being productive, even though I’m maintaining a home and raising a child my efforts can sometimes feel as though they aren’t really bring forth any tangible benefits.

This is when I must remind myself that I am investing in my children’s future and what I am doing now will put them in good steed for the future.

I must also remember that this is just a season and one that I must embrace and enjoy because it will pass and it will be before I know it, my daughter will be much older and independent not needing my help in many day to day things.

Remembering this also helps me to relax and doesn’t give me the feeling that I’m in some way ‘missing out’ by not being at work. I must say that after you’ve cleaned up food off the floor for what feels like the 55th time in one day, being in an office does sound very very appealing 🙂

Having worked since my teenage years this new season has taken some adjusting to but watching my little grow and blossom has been so so rewarding, it’s such a honour. I’ve gained a new perspective on life and I’m thankful for that.

Thank you for reading x

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Hair care for my little one

Hey everyone! It’s been a while and why not kick off my return with an easy haircare routine.

I’d like to point out that What I’m going to share with you has been based on trial and error and me studying my daughters hair pattern and how it reacts to different products. I hope you find it useful for your little girl/boys delicate tresses 🙂

– Firstly, I wash my daughters hair once a week. I do this because her curly hair locks in moisture very well and doesn’t get dirty that quickly. I wash her hair using Cantu Care for kids tear-free nourishing shampoo

– I then finish this off with Cantu Care for kids leave in conditioner. I use this rather sparingly and work it through the hair with my fingers, I don’t comb her hair at this stage. I then put a shower cap in her (if allowed lol) to let the leave-in really do it’s work

– I also have the Cantu Care for kids Conditioner, I use this after the shampoo every other week because for me I feel like it does a very similar job to the leave-in conditioner with the only difference being that I rinse out the conditioner. The consistency and smell seem identical to me but that could just be me.

– After leaving the shower cap on for 10 minutes or so, I remove and pat dry any excess leave-in and style her hair. I begin with the Cantu conditioning creamy hair lotion. This is the adult one so I use very little.

– I follow this with some Castor oil, I bought this one on amazon and it’s pretty good, with its nice thick consistency, you wouldn’t need much.

– Then finally I use Cantu Care for kids curling cream to define her curls. Again you don’t need to much of this but can always adjust quantity depending on the thickness and length of your child’s hair. I’m really impressed with this product, it leaves my daughters hair so shiny and the curls stay defined for most of the day.

– For creating styles that require hold like cornrows or putting the hair into bunches I use the Cantu Care for kids styling custard. I really like how it holds the hair and there is no residue what’s so ever, no bits in the hair, the hair doesn’t become hard, it’s still soft and nourished. This is my favourite product out of the range.

– For day to day care I do not use a comb on her hair, I tease out any knots with my fingers and run my hands through the hair gently, even if I’m putting it into bunches I don’t come it, I just tease it out with my fingers then gather it into a hold. For slicker styles I do use a very soft brush.

– I gently message the scalp concentrating on the hairline with castor oil to keep her scalp moisturised and promote growth, I do this daily.

– I was putting a silk headscarf on her head at night but that didn’t last long lool! May be when she’s a bit older. The cotton bedding really dries out the hair and saps the oil out, but will keep moisturising her hair daily to combat that.

I hope you’ve found this useful. If you have any questions please leave it in the comments or drop me an email 🙂

Thank you for reading xx

My 5 top tips for new parents

I truly believe that becoming a parent makes you an expert in YOUR  OWN child. If you pay enough attention and spend enough time with them, you and your partner get to know them better than anyone else. There are some things that I have realised in my 8 and a bit months of parenting that I would like to share. Here they are:

  1. Observe your child and watch for any patterns that develop with their feeding, nappy changes and baths. This may not be possible within the first 8 or so weeks but you will eventually recognise when they respond well to nappy changes and baths. You’ll be able to spot signs for hunger, tiredness or even trapped wind.
  2. Help your baby to feel secure in your arms. You are doing an amazing job and are the best person to be your child’s parent. Babies can sense insecurity, uncertainty and fear. Speak to them in a loving and assuring way, even if they are crying, try your best to remain calm and not get worked up.
  3. Take lots of pictures of your baby as they grow and change because its true what they say- time does really fly and they’ll be a toddler before you know it.
  4. Staying organised will help you to spend more quality time talking to and engaging with your baby. Simply putting a few things in place during the evening for the following day will help you start the day in a more relaxed way. This could be setting up for the morning bath, running a wash through the night or making sure bottles are cleaned/sterilised will all help.
  5. SELF-CARE – this is so so important mums. Take some time out for you! It could be a work-out, going on a short walk alone, having your nails done, a bubble bath. Whatever it may be try and get some time to look after yourself. You need to be in a good place to give your child your best. Agree with your partner a set day or a little time each week to do something yourself, you’ll feel refreshed.

Thank you for reading x

Third trimester

Ahh finally!! Third trimester arrived! The excitement had really reached its pinnacle lol. The waddle was in full effect, the nursery was ready and we had even filled our daughters wardrobe with some lovely gifted items as well as things we had bought for her. Each day felt like a week as I waited and I felt as though every little twitch could potentially be a contraction lol

During the last few months I had pelvic pain as the weight of the baby pressed down, which also caused lower back pain. I still had increased melanin on my neck and chest see pic below

Swollen ankles meant that slippers and more precisely single strap sandals or flip flops became my footwear of choice for the last 2 months before birth. It’s a good thing the weather was nice. I experienced braxton hicks from about 36 weeks and they were often pretty intense.

The simple tasks I once did swiftly and easily I now needed help with – putting on shoes, picking items off the floor, basically any action that required me to bend down towards my feet lol.

Interestingly I had even more energy in my last trimester and felt motivated to really tidy and clean up, I had read that this was common during the last trimester, this sudden urgency to have your home ready to receive your baby.

I had always wanted to find out the gender of our baby beforehand so you can imagine how I felt not finding out until almost 5.5 months! Each time we had gone for a scan our baby’s legs were either crossed or the position wasn’t clear enough to make out the gender. As my pregnancy progressed it became even harder to see as the bones became more dense. We finally did however get a scan which could give us a definite answer 🙂 it’s a girl!

From around week 35 our baby had gotten into the breech position and we were told there was a possibility that I would have to go through a c-section. Her head was tucked right up in my womb towards my chest, with her bottom facing down towards my cervix and her legs folded in towards her chest. I wasn’t worried, I still had enough amniotic fluid for her to have some shuffle room and turn around.

Of course I had heard a lot of stories about how other people’s births had been and it did make me dream about my own. Was it going to be quick? Was it going to be as painful as everyone said it was?

I would have absolutely loved to have had a natural birth but as I reached closer to the 40 weeks mark it was becoming clear that our dear little princess wasn’t going to get into position. For one reason or another she simply couldn’t turn. Having done everything I could (in the safest way possible) the decision was made to deliver via c-section.

As the delivery via this method had been planned I had just over a week to prepare mentally for what would take place and to be totally relaxed throughout. I knew that I was in safe hands and that I’d soon be meeting our precious gift.

Thank you for reading xx

Why are we getting our own day?

One of the questions that popped into my mind today with it being Women’s Day is, when is Men’s Day. Why isn’t there a day that celebrates the opposite sex. I mean for all the obvious reasons women are pretty awesome beings 😀 lol, but its deeper than that. When we look back through history and even in the modern day and note all of the inequality, hardships, injustice that women have gone and go through daily its rightly so that a day is dedicated to recognising how strong, resilient, persistant and powerful we really are.

Although it will take more than setting aside a day of recognition to truly recognise and take strides toward making life for women in the workplace and in society that little bit fairer, maybe its a step in the right direction. Maybe recognising women, what we do, how we do it etc. creates a day of reflection in some way. Maybe it doesn’t. Maybe its just there to keep us sweet (slightly pessimistic I know).

Things have improved for women but there is a long way to go to truly create a world where women are truly recognised for all that we do. That time I believe is coming and days like this are a reminder of that.

So today women lets keep encouraging, supporting and empowering each other.

Happy International Women’s Day!!!

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What to do if you keep running out of time

Yep it’s definitely happening, as we grow older the time we have seems to somehow whittle down. What happened to all that time you had to watch TV that wasn’t at the loss of doing something more productive and beneficial with your time?

How easy is it for the hours to pass us by without feeling the tangible benefits of any real productive action?

But there is something that can be done and thankfully there are steps that you can take to ensure that you make the most of each day.

  1. The biggest use of our time in (for those that use it) has to be social media. It can take up a lot of our time and if you are a part of Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter this alone can eat into your time. If you also use messaging services such as WhatsApp your time can quickly be filled checking and connecting with others through these instead of making time for more important things. Limit the time you spend on these by logging off or muting the notifications on the apps that take up the bulk of your time.
  2. Consider keeping a diary and write down your to-do list each day. When things are written down and kept somewhere visible its easier to follow it and strike it off when complete then creating lists on your phone.
  3. Practice being disciplined in small tasks. Commit yourself to completing the things that you begin will help you develop the commitment to finish the things that take a little longer.
  4. Avoid burn out by taking time to sleep. Working late into the night is what works best for some but if your energy is at its peak during the day having a good night’s rest is essential. This should also allow you to wake up earlier, giving you more time to respond to emails in the morning etc.
  5. Set reminders, if forgetfulness is whats taking your time then set a reminder with an alarm and don’t put off doing the task.
  6. Try and stay positive, negativity and talking down to yourself will deter you from completing or even starting what you need to. Time spent worrying and becoming anxious over a task not only takes your time but also takes up your energy, leaving you tired and deflated.

I hope these few pointers help you to really assess and take control of your day in a way that will help you to see a real change in how much you’re able to get done and effectively managing the time you have.

 

Thank you for reading x

Beauty has a new boss

Hello all! 🙂 Its been a while, as the nights draw in faster than we can get to used to at least we now have a very good reason to bring out and revive our winter wardrobes as the temperatures whittle down.

Recently I’ve seen so many encouraging posts from women who were once reluctant to really express who they were and felt increased pressures to conform to the industry standard of beauty (which often than not is unattainable for the average joe/joanne) leaving many feeling deflated and left out but are now feeling confident to express who they really are and live it out unapologetically.

But what I can only describe as a ‘revolution’ seems to have swept over almost everyone bringing us into a space of being able to share who we are and the things we love unreservedly on social media.

It doesn’t matter your skin tone, religion, face shape, contour style, we are now realising that there is a space for everyone in the beauty world. Brands no longer (to an extent) dictate to us how products should be used and what they should look like when worn but many have now taken this into their own hands.

This really is so refreshing to see and long may the ‘revolution’ continue! The standard of beauty seems to now be more firmly in the hands of the people it should have been in all along- ours 🙂

Thank you for reading x