5 things that potty training my daughter has taught me

Hello hello! It’s been a while and I’ve missed blogging. Parenting two young kids has been a big adjustment and the adjusting is still taking place lol.

It’s been a few weeks now since I started potty training my daughter and I wanted to share some real life lessons that I’ve taken away from it.

1. Patience when trying to reach your goals is key. When your patient you’re less likely to become frustrated and give up. Patience helps you to see the bigger picture and keep the end goal in mind. I’ve learnt to understand that I’m steering my daughter into a new way of thinking and also negotiating with someone who is very independent lol!

2. It’s okay to change strategy. Changing your mind and being innovative keeps the challenge fresh and less laborious. I’ve asked for lots of advice from mums and I’ve implemented them at different times to help reach the end goal.

3. Stay positive. Even when my daughter has an ‘accident’ I assure her that she’s going to get there. I never make her feel bad for what she has done, make a scene about it and I most certainly don’t tell her off. Positivity and a smile goes a long way and will actually help in progressing with the training. The way we talk to ourselves and the thoughts we entertain are important, say good things about your plans and ideas, use scripture if you’re a believer.

4. Celebrate the small wins. There has been more dancing’s between singing in our home these past few weeks than ever before as we celebrate each successful use of the potty and the same can be said about life too. Don’t demote something to mediocre when actually it should be celebrated. It gives you motivation to continue and reminds you that progress is being made.

5. Stay the course. It would be easy to give in and put a nappy on but we are so determined to stay the course and finally have a potty trained child. The reward at the end far outweighs giving in now into what’s more comfortable and familiar for her. The same goes for any other goal you have, put in the work and the results will be something you’ll be so so proud of.

Thank you for reading x

Staycation toddler and baby essentials

As we’ve all been adjusting to a new normal way of life, we’ve also had to change our holiday plans slightly. Many of us are now vacationing within our own countries and exploring different places for the first time. If road trips are something your family are used to or whether you plan to venture into travelling by road for the first time it’s best to be well prepared, especially if there’s a toddler or baby with you.

I’ve compiled a list of some of the essentials that you may need for a slightly stress free family staycation.

Firstly, think about your destination, if your staying with friends or relatives, in a town near shops or somewhere remote that will affect the items your packing. If you’re concerned about social distancing in shops it’s best to take everything you’ll need for the kids to avoid any non-essential trips to the shops.

How many nappies?

As neither of my kids are potty trained (2 1/2 year old and 4 months) I pack enough nappies for our stay. I estimate that we go through 5 nappies a day per child, I add extra nappies in the nappy bag for the stroller. Although light, nappies can be bulky and take up space in the car so buy at destination if you can. Breastfeeding on demand means that nappy changes can vary for a baby so I always make sure I have enough.

Toiletries

In their toiletry bag I include their bath sponges, tooth brushes and toothpaste, shower gel, skin cream, hair oil and comb. I also have in there their vitamin d drops and some medicine in the unlikely event of a fever. Cotton buds and cotton wool are also added. For my daughter I have small travel containers I put her hair cream and styling custard in, just to save space if we aren’t going away for very long.

Snacks and food

Lots of snacks! If your travelling to your destination by car, snacks are a must for hungry toddlers I pack a mixture of chopped up fruit and packs of rice cakes, oat bars that my eldest can munch on. As I’m breastfeeding I usually only take my breast pump and two mam bottles which can be sterilised in the microwave- they are great. However if your baby drinks formula milk best to pack all you’ll need to make their feed at a stop off on the way and during your stay.

Skincare

I also pack sunscreen and swimwear, open spaces like beaches are great for kids to run around in and expel some energy!

Sunglasses and hats can come in really handy to protect the little ones from the sun. It can be scorching hot if you happen to be out when the suns at its hottest so don’t forget to protect their skin.

Clothing and shoes

I tend to pack for the kids based on two things- the weather and the activity. I always also pack something warm as the evenings can be cold for kids and you never know when you’ll end up staying out a little later. I pack one ‘going out’ outfit for each day and for a 4 day stay for example I’ll pack 3 staying at home outfits should plans change and we end up staying indoors. Vests I pack enough for the number of days for my eldest and 2 extra than normal for the baby. Same with pyjamas, if it’s a summer vacation it’s likely vests won’t be needed everyday anyway.

I try to keep footwear to a minimum and only take 2 pairs of shoes each max to save space. Socks are always good for keeping warm in the evening or just to keep their feet safe on non-slip surfaces, so these I pack one for each day.

A light jacket or cardigan, as mentioned previously sometimes the early mornings and evenings can be nippy so taking an extra layer on top of that t-shirt or blouse will help keep the kids warm.

Toys

Toys and activities- you don’t have to be on a long drive to know that kids get bored of activities/games really quickly lol. I don’t want to get into the habit of always buying new games for trips but I do pick toys that they may not have played with for a while. Colouring activities, interactive books, puzzles that are easy to use in the car work well. new toys do work well as there is something different and exciting for them to explore.

Take their own plate/bowl and cutlery. I think this adds some familiarity to mealtimes in a new environment. These are often light and don’t take up much space when packing.

Wipes, wipes and lots of wipes oh and hand sanitiser of course. When you’re on the move in the car this is a good way to ensure that little hands are kept clean especially when they are snacking. Of course there is no substitute for hands being washed under clean running water but in between that time sanitiser and wipes do a fairly good job.

Lastly…

Try and get enough rest, car journeys can be tiring especially if there are delays on the roads. Providing entertainment, feeding little ones and possibly helping with navigation is all part of the fun of a staycation so relax and make great memories!

As always thank you for reading and I hope you have found this useful x

What I’ve learnt about breastfeeding so far

I haven’t posted since April 29th, in those 8 weeks things have been pretty busy. I’ve had some major realigning to do as I get to grips with raising a toddler and a new born but I’ll save the in’s and out’s of that for another post! What I wanted to talk about today is breastfeeding as its something I had always thought came naturally to every woman without any required effort on my part which isn’t really the case. So here goes my list, I’d like to say before starting that the breastfeeding experience is completely different for everyone and how your baby is fed has no baring on the type of mother you are.

1. If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again. Yes in the famous words of Aaliyah if you don’t quite get the hang of it try again. My first attempt to breastfeed my first born was a long tale of tears, sore nipples, frustration and basically not really getting the hang of it. By the time I did get the hang of it, it was too late. May daughter by then had developed a preference to formula milk and I only fed her breastmilk in the mornings and evenings for about 10 months before stopping completely. Second time around? A totally different story, I had milk from the very beginning and have had no issues whatsoever with feeding.

2. Be prepared for an increase in appetite. No one told me about this and I was surprised to find how ravenous I became when feeding the little one. I have noticed that the hunger levels are increased when I haven’t had sufficient sleep. It makes sense as the body is making milk plus breastfeeding itself takes up about 500 calories too so the body needs a lot of fuel.

3. I’ve found it harder to loose weight. Breastfeeding has increased my appetite coupled with looking after two young kids and interrupted sleep the motivation to work out has been pretty low. My midwife says the body sometimes actually reserves some fat during breastfeeding which can also make weight loss pretty difficult, so I guess it’s time to embrace these love handles a little longer lol!

4. My let-down responds to baby’s nap times. I found it interesting that around the time that my baby is about to wake up I feel my let down. It feels like a heavy prickling moving from my chest down towards the nipples and can feel a little uncomfortable until he begins to feed.

5. Breastfeeding tea has been a big help in keeping my supply up. The main ingredient in the tea is fennel which you can also buy as seeds and pop into some hot water and drink just the fluid.

6. 3 litres of water a day keeps me hydrated. I feel so dehydrated after a feed and as breast milk is almost 80% water I need to keep my body topped up. I keep a 1.6litre bottle of water with me at all times to ensure my body is getting what it needs.

7. My body makes more milk when I get some rest. As hard as it can be to fit in having a mini nap or a little rest helps me to produce more milk. I find that when I am stressed or rushing around I still make milk but it’s less than usual.

I really did feel that breastfeeding the first time around was a minefield. Even after all the help I had at the hospital from breastfeeding consultants I couldn’t quite get it right. After navigating sore nipples, working out my water and food intake I’m pleased to have mastered it second time around. If you’re on your breastfeeding journey some of these tips might be familiar to you too. Either way I hope it’s been an interesting read.

Until next time, have a lovely weekend xx

Sublime Prime(r)

As you’ll know from my previous post I recently went to Paris and had the opportunity to visit one of the Sephora stores there. I was really impressed with the wide range of brands that they had, the layout and the overall vibe in there. Having recently stocked the Fenty Beauty range the store was heaving with people ready to purchase the newest and coolest make-up range to hit the shops. Apart from bagging myself one of Rihanna’s new make-up products I also invested in the Urban Decay Eyeshadow Primer Potion.

urban decay eyeshadow primer potion

I’ve come to know and trust Urban Decay’s products over the years so was silently confident that this primer wouldn’t disappoint. When I first felt the product on my finger tips I found it to feel quite thin and silky and had a doubt as to whether it could handle not only my hooded but also sometimes oily eyelids. In my experience I’ve also found that there are some eyeshadow primers that only work well with shimmery or glittery eyeshadows as they adhere better but are a let down when matte eyeshadows are in the picture. This isn’t the case with this, it has a small wand brush that makes it super easy to apply on your lid and you need very little. I smooth it out with a concealer brush and give it a few seconds to set then begin applying my eyeshadow. The primer keeps my eyeshadow put all day and it doesn’t matter if its a cheap eyeshadow or one of the more upmarket ones, the results are the same.

I wanted to use this a few times before reviewing it just to be sure that I really do like it and that it actually works and I’m pleased to say it does. I should also add that the beige colour of the primer works very well on dark skin tones too as I know the other Urban Decay primer is lighter and can as a result make your eyeshadows look lighter and brighter than intended.

Overall, I’m pleased with this product and would buy it again. Hope you’ve enjoyed my review, please do let me know your thoughts, comment below or drop me an email at fuschiasequins@gmail.com

Have a lovely evening x

 

Good light

One of the most important parts of make-up application is ensuring that you are applying it in the right light. More often than not we find the most suitable place in our bedrooms where all of our make-up items fit and make the best of it. So which is best, natural light or artificial light?

If you’re going out during the day or to the office for example its best to do your make-up in natural light. This means facing a window where you have a good amount of light coming in and can really see the texture of the make-up on your skin. The reason why its best to do your make-up in this light is because when in the natural light you’ll be able to spot easily if you’ve applied too much foundation, if a shade is too ashy or too red/dark and if your highlight or glitter is too much. Hold a handheld mirror directly in front of your face in natural light and you’ll be able to apply and blend your make-up better. Fluorescent lights/artificial light don’t usually show colour and texture well and offer a dimmer/duller light that doesn’t show any discrepancies- until you take a picture with a flash that is!

When applying make-up and its dark outside there are lighting options that you can use such as bright white lights which are readily available in most shops and online. There are now smaller mirrors that you can buy that have a light around them, such as this one from Amazon, and its just £15. For my readers in the USA, you can also get this rather cute LED mirror from here. This is better than relying on the lighting in your bathroom, because those bulbs sometimes have a yellow hue which can make your make-up look dull giving you the illusion that more make-up needs to be applied.

To conclude, the answer is that it depends on the time of day but natural light is best and free! When applying make-up during the day and its bright outside then natural light is best. If you’re applying make-up at night use a good artificial bright white light than shines directly in your face and not at an angle. The best way is to get a mirror that has lights around it.

If you have tried these methods and still think your make-up isn’t quite looking right them its time to look into some other factors such as the tools you’re using to apply you’re make-up, your technique, your primer and lastly but most importantly the products your using.

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post and as always if you have any questions please let me know.

 

Have a lovely weekend x

Lash alert

False lashes – Applying eyelash extensions to the eyes in order to enhance the length and volume of the lashes. If like me it took you a while to get used to the application and use of false lashes and glue you’ll appreciate all of the great products there are on the market now. Great applicators, glues and of course the lashes themselves. I have been wearing lashes for a few years now would like to share some tips with you all:

When choosing your style of lash consider the look that you wish to achieve. This could be dramatic, flirty, bold, simple, natural etc. and buy the lashes that compliment the look you’re going for.

Before applying your lashes always check that they are the right length for your eyes. Your lashes shouldn’t end after your eyes or begin too close to the tear duct. If they are too long, cut them to size with a pair of cosmetic scissors. The perfect length for a natural look is measuring from the inner eye where your lashes begin right through to the outer part of the eye.

My favourite eyelash glue is by Eyelure. It’s a white glue that dries clear. It doesn’t have a strong smell and holds lashes beautifully all day! I’ve tried lots of others and I really do think this is the best on the market. You can pick up a bottle at any big Boots store. Our eyes are precious and its important that we don’t damage our own lashes. I like this glue because I can carefully remove my false lashes at the end of the day without pulling on my own lashes.

If you have a shaky hand when applying lashes use tweezers and don’t allow the glue on the lash to become too tacky before applying. If you allow the glue to dry too much and find its not where you want it you can easily move it then gently hold it in place until dry.

Apply the lash to the very base of your eyelid to create a much more natural finish. You can use the opposite end of the tweezers (the non-tweezing side) to smooth down the lash and ensure that its resting securely on your lashes.

I always apply my lashes AFTER my eyeliner, so even if you don’t quite get the lashes neatly on the base of your eyelid its not as evident.

Allow your lashes to dry completely before continuing with the rest of your make-up.

If you wear your lashes more than once always clean off the excess glue in-between wears using tweezers or warm water on a cotton bud.

Keeping your lashes in their case keeps them in shape and dust and dirt free.

If you like extra volume apply your mascara before putting your lashes on. This adds depth to even the thinnest of false lashes.

 

I hope this helps! x